Soooo Out!

In lights of the festive mode!
In fashion for a new vibrant wardrobe!
In courage for trying out colors!

Might as well, a new colorful template for my beloved blogs to commemorate the joyful mood of lovely cookies and pink scarf!

Cheers for Colors!

Black is Soooo Out!

Twin Soul

I watched 'Ayat-ayat Cinta' and was taken away by the movie. Benchmark any Malay movie and Indonesian Movie, 'Ayat-ayat Cinta' can easily be the best. Of course, I am not good at reviewing movie and i have not seen lots of movie, thus my comment might be irrelevant. Nevertheless, i enjoyed it.

I made 5 copies and gave it to my close friends and hope that it will give them the understanding of whatever it is they want to understand .

What catches my attention was there's this one scene in which Fahri, the main character, in a Taaruf, (a meeting) with the present of family member to introduce to him his -probably- future wife. With one look he agreed, ran upstairs and told his best friend 'Aku sudah ketemu teman hidupku'. He said 'Teman Hidupku'.

For us, in reality, we have been told to get to know the person first before we get committed. But maybe people who think that way have never learned to understand the 'universal language' (1). That lintasan pertama di hati.

Because when you understand that someone in the world awaits you, and when 2 such people encounters each other, and their eyes meet, the past and the future is no longer relevant. There is only that moment. (1)

That moment when cupid strike, that lintasan pertama that can be just about anything, perhaps for some people, the beating heartbeat, or perhaps when the eyes meet, or simply it can be that overwhelming feeling of vibration in your body. Can be just about anything.

When cupid strike, there is only that moment of certainty that everything is written by the same hand. The hand that creates the existence of the universe, the hand that created a twin soul for every person in the world.

Prophet Muhammad SAW, during his daughter, Fatimah Azzahra's r.a wedding, said ' Semoga Allah menghimpunkan yang terserak dari kedua-duanya, memberkati mereka keduanya dan meningkatkan darjat keturunan mereka.'

Perhaps, does the words 'menghimpunkan yang terserak dari kedua-duanya' refers to Adam's right rib that makes the whole part of Eve's? The twin soul, soulmate, teman hidup, jodoh, whatever you might called it.

Believe in jodoh, but most importantly, we have to listen to our lintasan pertama, and as my wise man always said ' Whatever u think, follow the first instinct of your heart.'

(1) The Alchemist, P.Coelho.

'Given' Experience

' Human with Human's Experiences, and Human with Special Experience'
-M.K-

A recent conversation with a friend in which he utters these words. Which makes me think, human go through life and experience daily activities. Lesson that are learned through experience, moment that we took into account, normal encounters which are possible with our kudrat. All of these, are, human with humans experience.

Human with special experience, are those that lives through the 'given' experience by the Master Of Works. Experience that our normal mind are not able to conjure. One can say that a human mind are capable of doing almost everything. Yes i agree completely as with the saying of Saidina Ali 'You presume you are a small entity, But within you is enfolded the entire universe'. But in opening our hijab, to enable us to do almost anything that is allowed upon us, the Master of Work will give us 'special experience' to allow us to bridge between the visible and the invinsible. Experiences that we know, when it happen, it is controlled by a greater force. That, i think , is Human with special experience.

Poligamy-Written By Mrs Hazril aka kak Fizah

My Cousin, Kak Fizah wrote this and publish it on the friendster Bulletin. I find it to be a very mature writing and comprises of everything that Men seems to be missing nowadays whenever they talk/proposed the idea of poligamy. I must say, i am very pleased to read the entry and more pleased to know that it is written by my own cousin. :)

Pd usia 40-an ke atas, mungkin hormon mereka berubah agaknya!.Perbualan yg pd mulanya hanya main-main sj kdg2 hilang arah hingga tak terkawal lg,cerita-cerita hal rahsia suami isteri pun dijadikan bhn lawak yg menjijikkan.Padahal Rasulullah s.a.w amat menegah perbuatan sebegini,Baginda tlh bersabda yg bermaksud:"Jgnlah kamu lakukan itu (membuka rahsia perhubungan suami isteri kpd org ramai) krn perbuatan seperti itu umpama perbuatan syaitan lelaki bertemu dgn syaitan perempuan lantas berzina dengannya,sdgkan org ramai melihat mereka."(Hadis riwayat Imam Ahmad)

Konsep keadilan terlalu brt dijalani melainkan bagi lelaki yg benar2 beriman & ikhlas niatnya krn mahu membela nasib wanita.Tetapi sayang,hasrat yg baru muncul itu timbul krn dorongan nafsu.Ramai lelaki tak beriman menyalahgunakan keizinan agama utk melakukan poligami.Lelaki yg berfikiran waras & berhati bersih serta jujur mengetahui kelemahan dirinya pasti akan merasa takut memikirkan betapa beratnya beban melakukan poligami.Lelaki yang sibuk membanting tulang utk keluarga di samping kuat beribadat & amanah,tak akan sempat membayangkan nikmatnya berpoligami.Masa yg diberikan Allah Taala seolah-olah tidak cukup utk memenuhi segala tanggungjawab dirinya sbg lelaki harapan masyarakat,ibu & bapa,sbg suami & ayah.

Seperti mana yg tlh berlaku kpd seorang sahabat Rasulullah s.a.w Abu Darda' r.a. Beliau menjauhi isterinya krn sibuk bekerja & beribadat hingga menyebabkan keadaan isteri tidak terurus akibat tidak disentuh oleh suami yg sentiasa sibuk. Pd suatu hari datanglah Salman al-Farisi menziarahi keluarga Abu Darda',isteri Abu Darda' ditanya mengapa tidak berhias untuk suaminya.Beliau menjawab:"Saudaramu Abu Darda' tidak memerlukan dunia."Salman menasihati Abu Darda':"Sesungguhnya dirimu mempunyai hak,Tuhanmu mempunyai hak,tetamumu memiliki hak,isterimu juga memiliki hak.Berikanlah hak kpd yg berhak memilikinya".

Kalau seorang isteri pun belum mampu ditunaikan haknya dgn sempurna bagaimanakah mahu menambah koleksi baru.Alangkah peliknya lelaki yg mengaku layak berpoligami tp tak sempurna solatnya,hidup menumpang harta isteri,tidak ambil kisah ttg perkembangan anak-anak.Berlainan halnya dgn lelaki kaya & berjawatan tinggi,mungkin Mahkamah Syariah dgn senang boleh meluluskan permohonan mereka,tp bagaimanakah beban psikologi yg terpaksa ditanggung oleh isteri & anak-anaknya.Tidak ada wanita yg mahu dimadukan melainkan wanita yg bersifat diluar kebiasaan.

Bukan hendak menafikan hukum Allah Taala kpd suami yg mampu dalam hal nafkah utk berpoligami tetapi soal hati tetap menjadi masalah terbesar yg wajib diuruskan segal haknya.Mungkin iman anda & isteri akan tercabar,mungkin ibadah & keikhlasan akan surut diburu oleh kebencian,kebohongan & mahu membalas dendam.Sampai bila hati dibiarkan rosak,adakah berbaloi menelan kepahitan sampai agama tercabut dari hati isteri lama yg malang & isteri baru yg selalu kena seranng?Melainkan isteri lama tidak ada pilihan lain tempat dia bergantung.Hanya mampu menelan kepahitan dgn redha krn harapkan belas kasihan Allah Taala di akhirat nanti.Kalau mahu bercerai & mulakan hidup baru, dia mesti menerima risiko yg berat & terpaksa ditanggung sendirian.Bagaimanakah dgn nasib anak-anak? Isteri yg kaya & bekerja mungkin tidak merasa terbeban hal kewangan jika bercerai tetapi tanggapan masyarakat pasti akan memandang keji ke arah seorang janda. Beban emosi yg kejam sebegitu terpaksa ditanggung juga.

Setiap kali perceraian berlaku,masyarakat pasti menyalahkan isteri yg tak pandai jg suami.Padahal dlm Islam di tgn suamilah segala amanah keluarga itu dibina.Dialah pemimpin, knp harus isteri yg disalahkan?Jika isteri tak baik pun,itu juga merupakan salah suami juga krn dia tak membaiki isterinya.Cubalah koreksi diri sebelum menyalahkan isteri.Sebenarnya sikap suami amat berpengaruh terhdp tingkah laku isteri.Isteri anda OK tak?Pasti kerana kelemahan anda jg, wahai para suami.Jgn lari dr kelemahan diri sendiri dgn cara berpoligami!

'This will pass'

'One morning, I'll wake up and find I'm thinking about something else, and then i know the worst is over. My heart might be bruised, but it will recover. When someone leaves, its because someone else is to arrive. I want to believe that it is wonderful to be free. Free again.'

Paulo Coelho 'The Zahir'

On the contrary, I am glad that you existed. You have show me that I am capable of love, which i knew nothing about. You have shown me that I am capable of being wounded. I am wrestling with my emotion to leave behind the sadness, and to only carry the love. They will pass.

A king, asked his men to carved something on his ring. Something that he will never forget. The Wisest of Man among them, carved something, and showed it to the King. The King, upon reading it, bestowed the man with the title 'Most Wisest'. At the ring, carved are the word:

'This will pass'

When the king conquer a land, and he feel joy, he looked at the ring, and remember, that the feeling will be gone in due time, when his wife pass away and sadness carry through, he looked at the ring and remember, that the feeling will pass, when he owns something priceless, and he lost it, he looked at the ring and remember,this will pass..

Most Brilliant Quote

-This Will Pass-

Your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it.
Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it.
You presume you are a small entity,
But within you is enfolded the entire universe.
You are indeed the evident book,
By whose alphabet the hidden becomes the manifest,
Therefore, you have no need to look beyond yourself,
What you seek is within you, if only you reflect.

(Imam Ali Ibn Abi Taleb)